June is Men’s Health Month, an opportunity to shine a light on the physical and mental health challenges that men face and to encourage open conversations about wellbeing.
At CPSL Mind, we know that mental health problems can affect anyone, regardless of age, background, or circumstances. Yet many men still find it difficult to talk about their mental health or seek support when they need it.
Research consistently shows that men are often less likely to access mental health services, talk about their feelings, or ask for help. Social expectations, stigma, and concerns about appearing vulnerable can all make it harder for men to open up when they are struggling. As a result, many men suffer in silence, often waiting until they reach crisis point before seeking support.
This Men’s Health Month, we want to encourage everyone to check in with the men in their lives and help create a culture where talking about mental health feels normal, accepted, and supported.
Starting the conversation
It can be difficult to know how to begin a conversation about mental health. Many people worry about saying the wrong thing, but often the most important step is simply reaching out.
A simple question such as, “How have you been lately?” or “I’ve noticed you don’t seem yourself recently – how are things?” can create an opportunity for someone to talk.
You don’t need to have all the answers. Letting someone know you’ve noticed and that you care can be enough to help them feel less alone and more comfortable opening up.
Ask twice
Many of us are used to responding with “I’m fine” when asked how we are, even when we’re struggling.
That’s why it can help to ask a second time. Gently checking in again and allowing space for silence can encourage someone to move beyond their automatic response and share how they’re really feeling.
Sometimes the difference between a surface-level conversation and a meaningful one is simply giving someone the time and opportunity to talk.
Listen without judgement
When someone does choose to open up, try to listen without interrupting or immediately offering solutions.
Often, people aren’t looking for someone to fix their problems. They want to feel heard, understood, and accepted. Active listening, showing empathy, and acknowledging their feelings can make a significant difference.
Phrases such as “That sounds really difficult” or “Thank you for telling me” can help someone feel supported without putting pressure on them.
Keep it low pressure
Not every conversation about mental health needs to happen face-to-face across a table.
Many men find it easier to talk while doing something else, such as going for a walk, watching a football match, working on a project, or grabbing a coffee together. Shared activities can help reduce pressure and allow conversations to happen more naturally.
Even if a conversation about mental health doesn’t happen straight away, spending time together can help reduce feelings of isolation and show someone that support is available.
Encourage small steps
When someone is experiencing anxiety, depression, stress, or other mental health challenges, everyday tasks can feel overwhelming.
Encouraging small, manageable steps can be more effective than suggesting major changes. This could include going for a short walk, maintaining a regular routine, connecting with friends, spending time outdoors, or speaking to someone they trust.
Small actions can help build confidence and create momentum towards recovery.
Knowing when to encourage professional support
While support from friends and family is incredibly valuable, there may be times when professional support is needed.
If you’re concerned about someone’s mental health, gently encourage them to speak to their GP or access specialist support. Remind them that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
At CPSL Mind, we offer a range of services designed to support people with their mental health and wellbeing across Cambridgeshire, Peterborough and South Lincolnshire. No one should have to face a mental health problem alone.
Supporting dads’ mental health
Mental health challenges can affect men at any stage of life, including during pregnancy and early parenthood.
Becoming a father can bring significant changes, responsibilities, and pressures. While conversations about perinatal mental health often focus on mothers, fathers can also experience anxiety, low mood, stress, and feelings of isolation.
Through our Dads Matter service, we provide dedicated support for dads and dads-to-be, helping them navigate the challenges of parenthood while looking after their own wellbeing.
Our Perinatal Service recognises that supporting dads is not only important for their own mental health but can also have a positive impact on the wellbeing of the whole family.
You are not alone
Every year, CPSL Mind directly supports more than 8,000 people across our communities and connects with many thousands more through training, campaigns, events, and awareness-raising activities.
There are also a range of local groups and activities available across Cambridgeshire and Peterborough that support men’s wellbeing and help people stay connected. The How Are You Men’s Wellbeing directory signposts to local opportunities, support groups, and activities that can help improve wellbeing and reduce isolation.
This Men’s Health Month, we encourage everyone to take a moment to check in with the men around them. A conversation, a message, or simply being present can make a bigger difference than you might realise.
If you are experiencing difficulties with your emotional or mental health, support is available. You do not have to face things alone.
To find out more about our services, visit cpslmind.org.uk.
To learn more about our Dads Matter service, contact Gary.Clarke@CPSLMind.org.uk.
You can also watch our dedicated Men’s Mental Health podcast episode featuring Gary on our YouTube channel.